What if success wasn't what you thought?

Claire Markwick: 00:00:08

Welcome to fierce woman rising. The podcast that ignites your inner fire and introduces you to women whose shattered norms, rewritten rules, and embraced financial independence. I'm Claire, accountant, business mentor, coach and your guide on this transformational journey. Each week, I'll be sharing powerful interviews with women who have embraced a life of purpose and taking control of their destinies. Learn from their stories. Empower yourself and if you feel called, join us in rewriting your own story. Financial independence, joy and abundance are not just a dream. It is your birthright. Let's rise together with fire and become the next theists woman rising. Hello, and welcome to another episode of the fierce woman rising podcast. We took a bit of a pause last week. But I'm back this week and super excited to have another very inspiring conversation this week, why I'm chatting to the beautiful Brittany. And now Brittany is a homeschooling mama of three who is traveling Australia full time in her van with her hubby. She is an affiliate marketer and she is just a passionate passionate woman about the lifestyle that she is leading. And I just cannot wait for you to hear her story from where they have come from to where they are now and what the plans for the future are so printing. Thank you so much.

Brittany Flinn: 00:01:38

Oh, no, thank you. Thank you so much for having me on. I just, I just love coming and chatting all the things. Love it. Love it. Love it.

Claire Markwick: 00:01:46

So obviously, let's start off with a bit of your story like share with us like where did things start for you like because we don't often wake up and as you know, teenagers are going you know what, I'm going to be an affiliate marketer. So what was your journey? Where did you start? How did you how did you come into this industry?

Brittany Flinn: 00:02:05

Oh, thanks. Yeah, I totally love this question. And, you know, every time somebody asked me this question, I get to tell the story, which again, actually lands for me how totally far out my journey into this space has been, and I get to sort of be grateful for it again, every single time. So I guess for me, I was, you know, your typical modern day, raised by a feminist girl, I thought, you know, I can do anything I can. I'm a rock star. You know, I was really driven from when I left school or backpacking around Europe by myself and started my own business, a horse training business, like pretty early on. And I met my husband and we started working on cattle stations together, we travel around Canada, you know, and we were like, This is what we want to do for our life. You know, we want to be working together we want to be you know, horseback every day we want to be moving cows, you know, think Yellowstone that was basically my life Yellowstone. And I was like this, I'm, I'm living the dream. And my husband and I, we had a super connected relationship. We love working together. And it was super great. And then throw kids into the mix. And I sort of I had my first child and after a pretty traumatic birth and kind of a traumatic postpartum, and we kind of moved to a new station. I got landed in this sort of space of motherhood that I really actually wasn't prepared for. I was like, hang on, I'm a cowgirl. I'm not. I'm not a mom. And I kind of found myself. I joke I found myself like crying into my kitchen sink, looking at the window, seeing my husband right away on his horse over the green rolling hills. And he was me left in the kitchen behind like, Hang on, wait, this was my dreams now. This is not how it's meant to be How come you get to go and have all the fun and like all this resentment built up and I started resenting the fact that you know, he was going to work and I wasn't doing anything and he was getting to live my dream and I was

Brittany Flinn: 00:04:24

like left behind in the kitchen or whatever. And I it was really unhealthy, you know, this, this cycle, and then he would get home I'd be like, yeah, how was your day like, had a great day. You know, it was just really it's just such an eek. I'm really a bad energy to sort of stop my motherhood and his fatherhood journey off. So I kind of I did a lot of healing around what a mother look like and what kind of mother I wanted to be and all of that. Get to A book different for everybody. But for me, it was kind of softening and really actually finding purpose and joy within the role that I had rather than trying to outsource my joy and outsource my worth to outside sources from other people, which I guess I had been guilty of thinking, Oh, my worth is only because that person or that boss thinks that I'm good at what I do, or Yeah, yada, yada, yada. So there was so much wrapped up in me, I guess, becoming a mother and divorcing myself from that role of maybe being a bit of a people pleaser, a bit of a workaholic, it was all sort of tied in with that identity that I had lost. Kind of being forced into by having a baby. So here I was, I had two children. Now as I had an I had a second baby. And we were managing a really, really massive cattle station, out in on the edge of the desert. So if you guys can think of remote, that's where we lived, I'm talking like, get your groceries on the mail run, which came twice a week. And they would actually, you would actually call up the supermarket and they would box up the groceries for you. And they would put them on the back in a mail truck and they would the mail truck would get delivered out to you like that's how remote I left because it was too far to go to a grocery store. So

Claire Markwick: 00:06:34

get the milk.

Brittany Flinn: 00:06:37

And you would hate it if they accidentally put the milk in the wrong type of box. Or if they put it in a cardboard box. By the time it got to you the milk was hot. Yeah, it was, yeah, it was a whole lifestyle that it was very all consuming. And you know, I was really I was really capable as a mom by then. And I was helping my husband run this station. And I'd kind of found my role. You know, I'd found motherhood and I was balancing the whole cargo lifestyle with motherhood and it was going okay, except for the fact that, you know, my husband had just taken a that really senior management role. So he was really involved in his job and I pretty much never saw him and I guess it the balance started to tip where his workload was extreme. And I had to take on more workload of like, the domestic and the family and everything like that, and I that that old resentment feeling started to creep up within. And I know that that feeling isn't it's not it's everyone's familiar with it in different times and different seasons of their life, that sort of resentment. And, and, and meeting that, that feeling of where you're at, like, what is this trying to tell me? What's out of kilter in my life? What's, what's coming up for me?

Claire Markwick: 00:08:11

Right, then like, I'm pure, like, in that moment, right there. Like when we're in those trenches, you don't often what we kind of do now, but at the time, you probably weren't actually asking those questions. Were you probably like, deep in the thick of it, or? Yeah,

Brittany Flinn: 00:08:26

I guess I what? I fluctuated between and I'd been there before, I'd been in that place before. And I kind of been like, I know what I need. I need to sort of I'm feeling lost. I'm feeling your unseen, unheard, unappreciated. I'm just feeling like, like, I'm out of balance out of kilter here. And I started searching. I started thinking I need something for myself. Yeah. And suddenly, the first thing that came up was this was a actually a horse competition. And it sounds so crazy now that I've talked about it, but it was basically it was a black magic makeover. So it was, so if you can imagine it was a racehorse makeover. So the competition went for three months. And in the beginning, you sourced a racehorse straight off the track. And it was basically like a retraining rate harming of a racehorse competition. So you got a racehorse straight off the track. And you had 90 days to transform this race horse into a right a ranch or so their competition was called Race to ranch. And at the end of the competition, you took that horse to this big national competition and you competed against all the other people that had also entered the competition with their racehorses. And I think I at that time, because, you know, that was something that I felt like would give me on no kudos, or maybe some recognition or just to be seen and heard. I thought, yeah, this is what I want to add to this really massive national competition. So I entered this competition, and I thought, I'm gonna do this, you know, this is everything up my alley. I am, I'm capable. And this is gonna give me I guess, the purpose and the drive and the maybe the recognition or something that I, I was craving at the time. So my husband was really supportive, and all was going well. I was competing against quite a few other professional horsemen. I'm not a professional horseman at all. And the the definite imposter syndrome just came up, fully came up to rear its ugly head, like,

Brittany Flinn: 00:11:00

you're just a mom from the bush, like, What are you even doing? Even putting yourself out there in this space in this realm, you you don't belong there, you don't know what you're doing. You're not good enough. Just all of this started welling up. And it's, it's, I guess, it's very personal, some of the things that were coming out, but also very universal, or the themes that were coming up, you know, you've lost traction, because you've had kids, you're not as fit as the other women. You know, you're, you're not as skinny as the other women. You don't have as much time to dedicate you're, you're an old old hat, and you just need to hang up your boots kind of thing. These were things that and themes that were coming up for me, and how

Claire Markwick: 00:11:48

when you put yourself out there, and you do something a little bit outside of the norm it all this stuff starts to

Brittany Flinn: 00:11:55

Yes, yep. 100%. And I thought, I can't back out now because I've entered I've and to be honest, I reckon if I could have backed out, I would have that. That's, that's how I was embarrassed of that. Yeah. And I reached out to a friend of mine, who was a life coach, and I said, Hey, I've seen that you're posting stuff online about mindset and everything like this, do you think that you'd be able to help me and coach me through, like my mindset through this competition, and just get me to the end? Because I'm really struggling with my mindset around success and worthiness? And, and she she has said, Yeah, I will, although I'm kind of not really taking on any new clients at the moment, because I'm getting started in a different kind of business. I'm taking my business in a different direction. But I'll definitely be happy to take you on. And I thought, All right, thanks, great. I don't actually care what you're doing. But I just really care that helped me personally, so. So she, she took me on. And it was really, really great. And she really helped me kind of say a lot of what was going on for me was just story around my, my life and had come up from my childhood and everything like that. So that was really great. I started putting in some, some really great work. And it was kind of flowing through my competition, but also through my family and my kids. And it was really great. Anyway, part of the part of the journey of this competition was also sharing every week, every day, basically, other other companies products that were sort of sponsoring me along this, this road, so you know, a company might send me a shirt, and I'd have to like wear their shirt in a picture and like tag them, or a company might send might send me some horse feed, and I'd have to tag them, they might send me a set of blanket and I'd have to tag them and stuff like that. So it's doing a lot on social media, sort of around sponsorship and everything like that no one gave me

Brittany Flinn: 00:14:10

any money because it'd be great if they gave me money, but no actually gave me my product that I could use along my journey. And yeah, that was really wonderful. And so I just sort of got a little bit of knowledge around how to use social media because I was having to do that every day. Anyway, the day came that I left for the competition. Now for me to drive to the competition, I had to leave the kids at home with my husband because the husband couldn't leave the cattle station. So that was a whole big deal. You know, my two boys and by then I was pregnant with my third and I left them and I drove the 12 and a half hours from the station to where the competition was being held. And so that was a huge day ordeal and a lot of Guilt came out, you're just doing this for yourself. You're leaving your kids behind with your husband who's managing so? Yeah. Oh, yeah, all this kind of stuff that I guess maybe guys don't ever think about. But of course women as well we do we take on all of the mental load of, of our own stuff and then our family stuff and blahdy blahdy blah. So I arrived at the competition. And again, I'm, I'm surrounded by all these really great women that are just so amazing. And I think what am I doing here? Oh, well, I thought you know what, I'm gonna have fun because you only live once and you only you only get this kind of experience once in a lifetime. And lo and behold, I actually won the damn thing. No. Yeah, like, Oh, my God, it was, it was a life changing experience for me to just to just have realized that it's just like, 90% mental, this whole this whole situation and my mindset, by the time I got there was just so great. I was just so present. And I was just so in the moment, and I actually had a bowl, whereas I can definitely say that pretty much none of the other women maybe except for one or two actually enjoy themselves because the pressure was just stressed. And in it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. But I was just handed a bowl. And when

Brittany Flinn: 00:16:27

I called out that, I'd want you to be kidding. Like, Were you serious?

Claire Markwick: 00:16:32

Rolling? Yeah, yeah. Literally, that's.

Brittany Flinn: 00:16:36

Yeah, it was just so it's such a life changing moment for me to be like, Oh, you did it against kind of all these odds. You seriously did it. However, the outcome of it was not what you would think. So I remember I got in my car, I have this big winner sash. And this big winners garland, you know, it's hanging from my revision mirror, I'm just like, Yay, you did it. You You're the pinnacle, you know, you made it. That whole feeling of kind of making it. I've got, you know, all these free products in my backseat that the companies have given me to sort of showcase this competition, and I get in my car to drive home. And I don't have enough money in my bank account to put fuel in my car to drive the 12 and a half hours home. And so I had to call my husband and be like, Hey, can you transfer some money, like into my access account so that we can so I can afford to drive home? And it was such a bombshell moment for me? Because I'm like, okay, so you supposedly made it or not quite made it. You reached the pinnacle of life or for whatever the heck you thought you were wanting to do. And what have you got to show for it. You've worked really hard, showcasing all these other company's products. You haven't you've actually gone backwards in time, energy and money in use so much of your family's money to go to this competition. And what have you got to show for it, you've got like a $5 ribbon hanging from your revision mirror. And you're broke? Like what the heck. And it was

Claire Markwick: 00:18:28

with a bump. Oh, it

Brittany Flinn: 00:18:30

seriously was I thought, I can't keep going like this. I cannot. I cannot go down this road. You know, I had all these offers of all these things after the competition. And I thought, hang on, I've just done so much work for so many other people. And I'm I've won this thing, but it's actually depleted me. Yeah, it's depleted my resources. It's depleted my family, you know, everything like that. I drove home, and I sat on my kitchen floor and I thought, what? Why did you do that? What? What were you looking for? That you thought that this was the answer to? Was it accolades? No, it wasn't accolades, because I got the accolades and I still felt crap. Yeah, was it you know, was it the purpose? Yeah, the journey was really life changing for me. But it felt out of kilter because I still did all this work and I felt like I was work at the end of it. So Michael, what will be the thing that I thought that I needed? And the thing that I thought that I I was reaching for was this kind of false goal. Yeah. And

Claire Markwick: 00:19:48

mirage. Yeah, see it in the distance and then you get there and it's like, it's not actually there. It's not real. It's not a thing. Yeah. You feel shit and

Brittany Flinn: 00:19:56

Yeah, exactly. And actually, I wasn't any better off I was Actually probably broke up. And what I was, when I started, I was more tired, I was more burnt out, you know, the other companies were probably like, happy that I had done a job. But then I didn't hear from them at the end because my contract with them I kind of finished and everything like that. And my husband was kind of in the same boat, you know, he was, had been juggling with kids while I'd been away and things like that. And he was, you know, running this massive station. And he'd suppose that supposedly also reached the pinnacle of his career, you know, he was in a, in a massive management role, but and you couldn't get any bigger than that in agriculture. And he was also like, super burnt out, he was just really missing his kids. And it was really missing, like the love of the job and the lifestyle and everything. And I was like, I don't know what it is. But this ain't it. This ain't. And I was devastated. And I remember I had one last call with my life coach, and I shared all of this with her, I was just like, I feel like great from my from a mindset point of view, because I feel like this has given me so much like the journey has been so great. But I also feel like, I've almost taken advantage of myself not being taken advantage of, but I have always taken advantage of myself. I didn't, I didn't honor my needs, and like completely filled, like really off the balance. So the energy exchange felt really all. And she was like, Heck, I know exactly what you mean. And this is why I've stopped taking on coaching clients, because I've been in the same boat. And she said, I wanted to share this business model with you. You know, I've started changing from just trading time for money and trying to scramble to get clients and everything like that to going into affiliate marketing. And I was like, yeah, hey, I've seen you posting about it. And to be honest, I had, I've heard

Brittany Flinn: 00:22:01

about stuff like this, and artists, I just don't know. And she was like, Look, Brittany, I get it. Because I was really lucky. But she said I really encourage you to have a look. And I thought yeah, just give me a little bit of time. Okay. This is a lot. Anyway, I started thinking about it. And then I really took stock of my life and I thought, okay, great, Brittany. But if you don't do this, what's your

Claire Markwick: 00:22:25

plan? Yeah. If not, yeah,

Brittany Flinn: 00:22:29

exactly. You're not gonna do this. You've got you've built up like a pretty good social media following so you understand how social media works. People really enjoyed your journey, and you really enjoyed sharing your journey with those people. And like you kind of, you've kind of put this legwork in, you deserve to be recompense for this. You deserve you actually deserve to not drive away from the from the competition. Nothing. Yeah, yeah, exactly. You kind of deserve this. So I took a few days. And then I called her up and I said, Look, I don't even know what it is you're doing, but I met my love it. I trust you, I can see that it's working for you. I don't quite understand it. But yeah, I mean, just like, send me the details. And I'll, I'll, I'll do it, whatever. And, yeah, it was a huge mindset shift for me, and especially my husband, because you guys can imagine, you know, coming from agriculture, every every dollar has to count every everything has to balance the you know, the ROI has to be there. And, you know, he actually went through the compensation plan with me when I went through the discovery process within this platform that I use, and he was like fully cheesed off, which I think is hilarious because he's like, well hang on. So I bust my god riding motorbikes around in 48 degrees crashing through prickles, and you know, cows pulling on me and everything like that, and you can make this kind of money doing what he's like, started me out yesterday. Like this man. He really he really had to look at the compensation plan and like, where it went, and the like the trajectory of the compensation plan and he's like, did some mathematical genius think this up? This is This is unbelievable,

Claire Markwick: 00:24:34

ridiculous.

Brittany Flinn: 00:24:38

And like, to be fair, at that point in my life, I actively rejected anything that looks remotely financial or remotely anything to do with that looks like kind of mathematically difficult, so I was just like, oh, like, I'm glad you're alive and However, I kind of realized like that had a lot to do with my money worries at the time and my inability to sort of sink deep and be worthy of that kind of money of looking at, like 10k months as like a minimum, I was like 10k months, and You seriously don't even ever think I've had 10k in my bank account ever. So, yeah, it was such, it was such a beautiful thing to be able to take him on this discovery journey of this business model and to be to be like, you know, what, playing by the rules has actually got me nowhere, because I play by the rules, and where did it get me it got me to where my husband is burnout. I've never seen him, you know, I, I succeeded, quote unquote, succeeded in my, my field, my role, you know, my hobby, or whatever. And it's also got me nowhere. So I'm, I deserve to, to look and look outside the box and think, Well, just because it's not done as a common thing doesn't mean it can't be done well. And I'm like, I can kill it, I can kill it this. Honestly, it has been such an amazing journey. It was, it took a bit for me to get get there because there was a lot of involved in, you know, self worth, and you know, am I can I do this? And am I worth that kind of money? And does this work and blahdy blahdy blah, but once

Claire Markwick: 00:26:36

before, as soon as you step forward into something, all that shit starts coming up in your head. And yeah,

Brittany Flinn: 00:26:43

yeah. 100%. And, you know, the funniest thing is, is that ever since the day that I started this business, not once has that, that feeling that resentment, of like, roll in place and feeling unsupported and unseen, that has never come up for me again, because I am so grounded in my role as a mom, because I am also succeeding outside of my role as a mom that I'm succeeding in my role as being a mom as in, there's just so much piece, because there's not that there's not that all I should be out side doing working outside of the home, you know, I can actually really get in and drop into my role. And the crazy thing is, is that I freaking love it. I freakin love my life and being with my kids. And And now since this is going to absolutely blow everybody's minds. But about 12 months ago, my husband got in a really serious car accident completely outside of work and got hit by a boss and has had to stop work. And so can you imagine having your husband being the sole breadwinner, and then all of a sudden being hit by a boss and not only when you live and work on cattle stations, you work on a cattle station, but you also live there. So that's your harm. So when we lost our job, we lost our home as well. And if I didn't have this business model ticking away in the background, I can guarantee you 100% That I would have looked at this thing that had happened to us as like a tragedy. Yeah, you know, this is life changing. I'm a victim to this thing that has happened to me. And I was like, Oh, cool. This is just who cares? I mean, we can handle this and of course we can we've lived this just dramatically changed in the fact that we just got a little nudge from the from the universe again, like Hey, get out of your own way. I'm going to take this this rug of security of the matrix out from underneath you you're you can do this you're completely on your own and you don't need that security of like a job and a house and the weekly wage. You don't need it.

Brittany Flinn: 00:29:20

You can and we don't we haven't. We haven't needed it.

Unknown: 00:29:25

I love hearing stories. It's so cool.

Brittany Flinn: 00:29:29

Yeah, and so here we are, we've got we bought a caravan and I am proud to say that I actually bought the caravan not that my husband and I are like separate we don't like keep tallies on who owns what or whatever. But my my business my affiliate marketing business actually paid for us to go and pay cash for a 10k caravan. Like that's not that's you don't take I don't take that stuff lightly. Coming from being raised by a single mom Um, and you know, all this kind of stuff, I kind of was raised in a lot of black. And so that's, that's a huge deal for me. And, you know, the funny thing is, the more that we keep showing up in the world as like, No, I deserve this, I deserve to have fun, I deserve to enjoy my life, I deserve to enjoy the children that I have, and not farm them off to somebody else to raise, I deserve to, like, explore this land that I live in. Because I was born here. And I can, you know, the more that I keep showing up like that, the more the universe just like completely and utterly has my back. And notice that the more people come to me for can they say I want this life I've seen you, I've seen you from they followed me from the, you know, the Barefoot mom in the kitchen making smoko for, you know, 50 ringers and nobody giving me a thanks to now taking my family around Australia, and we're doing whatever the heck they want, whenever the heck we want. And they followed me that whole way. People on my socials and I don't take that lightly. Because I I know that I know that there are so many people that are definitely in the trenches as I was not that long ago, and they look to me to go well, if she can do it, I can do it. Yeah. And you know, I don't have this like big, glamorous kind of locks life, where I'm not like private jetting everywhere every week, but I have the kind of richness that a lot of people do want, you know, I have, I get to wake up whenever the heck I want with my three kids like sitting on my head. And I like

Brittany Flinn: 00:31:57

just clambering all over me. And you know, today we thought we were gonna go to going caving, except then there was heaps of kids at school kids, and they shot the caves. And I was like, who cares? It doesn't matter. We can stay another day we can do, we can do something else. And to have that kind of choice. And the husband was joking. He was like, You do realize that, in my old job to get more than three days off in a row was unheard of. You know, it was absolutely unheard of within agriculture. Anybody will know, you know, your days off have to be like two days here. One day here. Two days there.

Claire Markwick: 00:32:40

And then a year as well. Yeah,

Brittany Flinn: 00:32:44

exactly. You know, and, and he's just like, I feel naughty. I feel naughty, that like I, I'm, I'm just living my life. However I bought. I thought he said crazy that we've been conditioned that living our life with our kids that we actually gave birth to. And we when we're raising and we're just you know, Exploring the country that we live in is seen as

Claire Markwick: 00:33:09

like demons. No. Yeah, the unknown. Yeah,

Brittany Flinn: 00:33:13

it's I know. Yeah. So yeah, it's it's just this whole continual cycle of just unlearning, unlearning more of that conditioning around. What does earning look like? What does you know, abundance look like? What does relaxing look like? What does connecting with your family look like? Just completely, just challenging those every single day. And they're not

Claire Markwick: 00:33:39

things that you we typically when you're in that normal groundhog day cycle that's societally normal, that they're not things that we give ourselves the time to question, are they? And so no, so many of us so many people listening to this, that would never have even pondered those kinds of questions. Thought about what the answer might look like.

Brittany Flinn: 00:34:02

You don't have time to and actually, it's, it's too confronting to ask yourself those questions, because you know, you can't answer them. Like truthfully, or like, authentically, you, you definitely know that if you start asking those questions, you're gonna be ripping the band aid off or opening a can of worms that you can't put the lid back on,

Claire Markwick: 00:34:23

and your brain start to tell you well, that's just not practically possible. You can't do that. You can't do that. Because you live here. You can't do that. Because of this. You can't do that because of that. And then we start to listen to that. And we go yeah, okay, Brian, you're right. And we Yeah, the idea back in the box, and we just get back on with their Groundhog Day life.

Brittany Flinn: 00:34:41

I know. I know. It was so crazy. I was having this exact same compensation with my sister in law, she said, I was just saying, uh, Byron Bay recently, she said, I went to the beach and it was like, a week day. And she said, there's all these people just laying on the beach and I'm like, What are you doing it like Good job. And I thought to myself all night that would have been made not that long ago, thinking, How dare you just be existing in the world, sir audacious of you to just be existing in the universe that you are born into. And not be not be using your life to be making money for somebody else on you, you know, I will tell you exactly the same. And now I look at people sitting on the beach, who include myself at two o'clock on a Tuesday. And I'm like, oh, man, I'm so proud of you. I'm so proud of you. What's the time

Claire Markwick: 00:35:46

like, I know, I know your story. But for those listening in what what is the time difference between those two mindsets for you? Like we're not talking? 1520 years? Oh, yes.

Brittany Flinn: 00:35:56

No, it is it is going to be exactly two years. No, it was two years last week. So two years from me saying Yep. I don't know anything about affiliate marketing. I don't know what the business model is. And I really don't know anything that I'm scared to death to today. Like completely owning it, crushing it, having choice and, you know, freedom to live my life is two years, in that. And in that time, raising two children and giving birth to a third.

Claire Markwick: 00:36:38

It just, I think we're in this we're in this society where, you know, because people, people are always saying to me, like, every few weeks or has business going, how's business going? How's Bisco? Like, it's like this instant gratification thing, isn't it? But like, and two years can seem like a really frickin long time. But when you think in the whole span of our life's existence, like two years to go from stressed out, resentful, burnt out lost no purpose, no fulfillment, no time to spend with your husband to where you are now. Like, cricket incredible. It's like, yeah, totally, like, unexplainably life changing, isn't it? Yeah.

Brittany Flinn: 00:37:21

And not only that, like, in, in that space of growing my business now where like, I'm getting passive income from my business. Not only that, but I, I had so many life upgrades to do I had so many mindset mindset shifts to do. I had, you know, like most of it was, was my stuff. You know, most of it was the baggage that I carried around that I had to let go, you know, when the shame or the conditioning all of the good girl or like, you know, you said you would go to uni and get a job kind of all of that was was was mainly what the last two years has been? Unlearning. Yeah, the business takes care of itself. It's, it's actually, it's actually, the way I show up that has had to have been the biggest shifts. And the funny thing is that the more work that I do on myself, the more money I make, and it's it, it just blows my mind every single time and my husband is the same. My husband now works in our business as well. And he it's funny, because I feel like I've done two years worth of legwork to get our business to where it is. And he just kind of walks in like, Oh, this is awesome. And I was like played

Claire Markwick: 00:38:36

on this foundation that you've laid. Literally

Brittany Flinn: 00:38:40

literally I like fame. So while you were like out there, you know, Boston you got with the cows and then getting hit by a bus and you know, all this kind of stuff. I've been doing the sheer like you just kind of walk in it. No, no, I'm, like 100% grateful every single day for him going out. You know, I'm also 100% grateful for him and me two years ago, for not even contemplating what the next two years was going to throw at us. But having a backstop, not even a backstop. It's like a front stop having a side hustle and main hustle in the background, not even contemplating what those next two years was going to look like. But I'm so thankful that we started it because imagine if I was in the beginning of the trenches of it now whilst juggling, you know, all this craziness that we've gone through the last few months. Yeah, I could I don't know what it was that may force or what I needed. But I'm so grateful that I did

Claire Markwick: 00:39:44

that. That's what I'm finding is such a consistent theme. Like I feel it in myself. I noticed it in myself. I noticed it in in our entire team and all of these conversations that I'm having with everybody. Like it's this kind of unexplainable knowing this like inner conviction this like this, like feel this pool, I don't know, I don't even have the full words to articulate it, but you like I just knew, like I knew come hell or high water, whoever the hell supported me or didn't support me like it did not matter like I knew and I had all that shit come up in my head as well and I still do. And that's what I absolutely love about this as an opportunity because, yeah, we get we get the money like you said the more the more you grow and the more you challenge yourself, the more money you actually make. But the better you become the better wife, the more loving and fulfilling your relationship is, the more at peace you are the more satisfied and fulfilled and happy and joyful, and I all of that comes with it as well doesn't matter. What other job does that

Brittany Flinn: 00:40:51

I know, or the better sex we have. Like seriously, it does. Because it impacts every part of your life. And the funny thing is, is that in no other business model, do you get paid to improve your own life. Like, in no other business model, it's usually the other way, the more you do plant you're laughing, like devote your time and your energy to something else. The more money you get given, this is the opposite. It's like the more you devote your life to like to like improving your own life, the more money you make. Like that's how it should be

Claire Markwick: 00:41:26

totally, but we just so not conditioned to that are we advice be then there's someone listening to this, who is starting to feel that little bubble of excitement and maybe doesn't even know what it is, but are feeling like those butterflies in their stomach? What would your advice be to that person right now? And all those voices that are gonna pop up in their head?

Brittany Flinn: 00:41:47

Yeah, oh, my thought my advice is, you know, you've got it, you know, you know, you have it inside of you. Because you wouldn't even be listening to this podcast, or you wouldn't even be having those bubbles, if you didn't have the thing that you needed to do this. And my advice is that you don't have to do it alone. You don't have you don't have to do it. Unsupported, you know, so, so much support, unbelievable amounts of support. Because it's, it's, it's a different paradigm of earning. And it's a different paradigm of, of being where other people around, you actually want you to succeed. It's not this. It's not this weird, like old boys club where everyone holds their cards close to their chest, and they don't want to share it because they don't want other people to like, steal their ideas. No, no, it's it's not that it's everybody wants you to succeed because a rising tide lifts all ships. So we're like, as soon as we see somebody coming, like in the distance well out over here like Yeah.

Brittany Flinn: 00:42:58

And the the moles are collectively at Community succeeds, the more we raise the vibration of humanity together, you know, there's nothing better than seeing people out there good people with money in their hands that can do good things within our community and think of that we change the fabric of our communities. So it's actually only better for all of us, for more of us to get linked into this way of earning to this way of thinking to this way of being so we, we want, we want more like minded people in this community join these things. So when you're coming, you're coming to a group of people with their arms open wide saying, You're gonna succeed, you succeed, you just, we're gonna, we're not gonna let you fail, you know. We're gonna push you and we're gonna lift you and we're going to teach you. So come in, do it scared, but do it knowing that you are 100% supported. And we want, we want to see you get the exact results that we have as well. So my advice is, come on, come on. What are you waiting for?

Claire Markwick: 00:44:15

Um, join us. I love it. I totally, totally resonate with that as well. Like, you know, everybody has each other's back. And it's not this like false. Like, every day is positive and shit like, like we are real people living real wise, like we've real kids going through real shit. And we have arguments with our husbands and we have arguments with our parents and we have shit that happens and stuff that comes up and all that kind of thing and to have a community of people who get it who are on the same wavelengths who who are working toward the same style. The same things but incredibly different things like like you said were saying earlier like richness in abundance and success looks completely different to you to what it does to somebody else. And, and that's perfectly fine. So everyone's destination is different yet everyone's mindset and, and values I think are quite similar. And so when you're in a funk and when you're having a shit time to know that you've got people like that, that can wrap their arms around you and give you this like safety net to kind of nurture you let you sit in what you need to sit in and then kick you up the butt to get moving again. You know, this kind of like, loving toughness, I think, just so phenomenal. That's been a really massive thing for me. Yeah,

Brittany Flinn: 00:45:39

I agree. 100%. And, you know, that has actually been probably the biggest magic of this business model is that, I guess, for the way that it's set up, everybody knows that, that the biggest kill on for most people is feeling like a failure and feeling like they aren't supported and feeling lonely to the fact that they just don't, oh, you know what, it's all too hard. And they fall back onto their own stories of, you know, I'm not worth it. And this doesn't work and all that kind of stuff. So the way that this is set up, it's kind of set up so that like falling, falling out of support is kind of impossible, you know, because they realize that the business model is successful, the more that people feel supported, and the more that people are kind of called forward out of their BS, and the more that they can turn around and find somebody to help them no matter what. So it's actually set up that way. Because it makes good business sense. Not only does it make good business sense, it makes great community sense. And finally, somebody's realized that that, that mining people's mining people's energy and time actually doesn't work and isn't good for humanity, and maybe doing the opposite is,

Claire Markwick: 00:46:57

yes, I love that. I love that. And I think it's a really awesome place to leave it and have that thought, resting in people's minds, you know, like, what if?

Claire Markwick: 00:47:08

What if the answer to the problems or the challenges or whatever that you're sitting in right now is to do the complete opposite. And just completely flip turn the societal norms of what we should be doing and what success looks like and what earning looks like and what living life looks like. Quite frankly, definitely.

Brittany Flinn: 00:47:25

Yeah, definitely. Thank you. I have appreciated chatting with you so much. It's so it's such such a lovely chat to, to have with you. It's been so beautiful.

Claire Markwick: 00:47:35

Oh, thank you so much. And if it's alright with you, I'll put all your contact details in the show notes for this episode. So anyone who wants to follow along with your journey and your travels, and yeah, musings in your growth can do so. And yeah, that'd be, that'd be awesome. Thank you so much. Again, it's been a really fun chat.

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You want them?

Claire Markwick: 00:47:54

How good was that? Oh, my God, I frickin love this job. I love recording these conversations and hearing the journeys that people have gone through when they rid themselves of the perceived normal way of doing things. You know, I really resonate with Brett's story about you know, reaching the reaching the success reaching that the top of the mountain that we thought we were climbing, that we thought like when we got there, at that point, we would feel happy, we would feel accomplished, we would feel like we'd made it yet. When she got to the top of that mountain. Not only did she not feel that, but she actually felt even more depleted and more burned out and more resentful and more frustrated because I guess all that time and effort that we put into striving for that goal. You know, on reflection, you're like well shit or whatever, what could I have been putting that energy into and that's something that I can personally relate to as well. And for a really long time I tied my happiness and my fulfillment and my feeling of success to physical things to job positions to salary levels, two types of car to how houses to areas that we lived in and over the years like the years of my sort of personal development journey, I've realized that it's not it's not the physical things at all, you know, it's it's inside our head, like Brittany said, like, it's, it's like 80% in our heads. It's our mindset is how we think about things. It's how we choose to view things. That's where our peace comes from. That's where our balance comes from. That's where our sense of satisfaction of fulfillment of love of joy and all that stuff like it comes from within and no amount of money no job, no car, no fancy resorts on holidays, no one lavish out there lifestyle is going to give us that inner feeling of happiness or fulfillment of contentment, where we have to stop looking for that next shiny thing to, to, you know, tide us over for a few more months, you

Claire Markwick: 00:50:15

know, like, it's it's that inner journey. And that's what I love so much about Enagic and the freedom era and the business model that we choose to operate, because not only do we do we get taught, and do we teach, and support the strategy, like, that's just the small part. That's the easy part. But all of the mindset work, all of the access to these massive successful coaches, life coaches, mindset coaches, all of that stuff is available to us as well. And so we getting all of this personal development of this sort of inner peace work getting over our own bullshit, like, that is all part of it, like so many of the conversations I've had recently with people have stopped, because the person hasn't felt like they're worthy, you know, they've tried something like this before, and it hasn't worked out in the past, therefore, this isn't going to work out. And you know, this story and that story, and that bit of bullshit and that bit of bullshit like, this is my invitation to you. If you're one of those people, or if you are listening to this for the first time, ignore that shit. Ignore those voices, ignore yourself perceived limitations, exactly like what Brett said in this and just trust that we as a community, have your back this as a business model has your back the universe has your frickin back when you actually release yourself from your own expectations and from your own limitations. When you actually let go, when you say, You know what, I actually don't give a fuck like, I really don't understand what this is, I don't have all of the information. I don't have all of the answers. But there's something I feel like I keep getting pulled to this. There's something freakin trust that, trust that. And then everything that comes up along the way, because I'm not going to lie to you stuff will come up, you will feel not worthy, you will feel not good enough, you will doubt yourself, you will think Holy fuck, that was a big investment, maybe I should have spent

Claire Markwick: 00:52:30

it on something else, you will think you will worry about what your partner, your mom, your dad, your brother, your sister, your neighbor's dog, you will all have their thoughts or your perceived notions of their thoughts is going to come up and it's going to haunt you. And each one of those things is not something to stop you. Each one of those things is an opportunity for us to go you know what, I've got this, and you face it, and you get over it and you take a step forward, and you keep growing and you keep growing and you keep attracting people to you. And like Brett said, the more work you do, the more money you make. Because the truer you get to your authentic self and how you actually want to be living, rather than living this life of you know what they call it quiet desperation because we're just doing what we think we should be doing. Fuck the shirts, let's do what we want to be doing. Can you imagine a society of people living life doing what they want to do rather than what they feel they should? Do? I just, yeah, I am not going to stop talking about this, I am not going to stop sharing this message. Because I know that every single one of these episodes that goes out, I know every single one of these conversations that goes out. The person that needs to hear it is going to hear it and that might not be you. But there might be someone in your network in your friends in your family, that you think oh my god, this is this is what they need to hear right now. And if that's the case, share it, share it with them. And let's spread this message because life is too freakin short. You know, Brett's husband got hit by a bus and you know, like, it clearly wasn't his time then it was just the steps the universe had to go to to really shake them out of where they were. So let's not get to the point of being hit by a bus. Take this podcast, take this conversation as your metaphorical being hit by a bus and have this be your turning point. Have this

Claire Markwick: 00:54:27

be the thing that makes you go you know what, maybe there is another way, maybe I could look at doing something else. Maybe I could look at doing something different. That is my invitation to you from listening to this conversation. And if that is something that you're like, hell yeah. Okay, let's do it. Just DM me. Just DM me Britt. That's all you have to type. Britt and I will look after you from there. I will take care of you. I will send you some information. I will give you everything that you need to know to explore this as an opportunity. And I'll be there holding your hand along the way. And we will start 2024 with a freakin bang and get you living that life that you want to be living rather than one than you feel that you feel you should be. So as I shared at the end of that conversation, all of Brett's contact details are going to be in the show notes to the episode. And yet, if this has been your nudge, if this has been your hit by a bus moment, send me a send me a message, masterclass Brit and I will send you all the information already. I will be back in your ears very, very soon. And until then, bye bye